The Daily Sabs

When I visited morm this weekend she accused me of being a panda. She says that every time she sees me the bags under my eyes are bigger and darker and make me look like a panda. I don't know why I look so tired. I feel like I go to bed at a reasonable time and generally get 7.5 hours of sleep every night. Maybe it's the mattress. It's time for a new one. I mean I think the main sign is that I prefer sleeping on the new couch (although it is awesome). Which reminds me, it's time for my favorite: a quick nap before bedtime.

geoloc

i got my hairdid yesterday, and once again laura worked her magic. originally she thought we'd go choppier bangs, but in the end i made her round them out. what i can i say, i can't seem to get enough of that pomelocat.

today samshrew and i were supposed to head up to wine country for a girls' day wine tasting and spa treatments. sadly, she ended up having to work this weekend, and had to cancel at the last minute. this meant i could've (a) gone on my own (b) found someone else who wanted to go, or (c) stayed home and decide that it's too gloomy for wine tasting. i opted for c.

besides, hanging out with randall's not so bad. even if it's a day of domesticity like costco and pulling weeds in the backyard (seriously they had gotten so tall i didn't even realize there was a lily plant in the back corner). but it's especially not so bad if it's a day that includes grilled lamb for dinner, and a trip to bittersweet cafe for dessert. their spicy hot cocoa is so delicious, but the peanut butter cocoa wowed me tonight. it even comes with enough foam for moustaches. plus, getting out of the house and going somewhere for no real reason is always fun.

ps. seriously i had no idea these lilies existed, and i can't remember the last time i saw chunky (the elephant).

This afternoon julie's pal Cynthia invited us to lunch at google. I
always forget that there's a google sf office, so at first I thought
she meant we were going to lunch in San Mateo (YouTube offices). I
mean I can take a long lunch sometimes, but that would've been a
pretty far drive just for free food. Luckily the google office is only
two muni stops away and so it fit into lunch plans. Julie and I both
ate a bunch of random things, but neither of us pigged it. In fact
there wasn't even much dessert left by the time we ready for sweets.
Guess we'll just have to go again!

Thanks Cynthia!

I had hoped to finish up my already belated best of the aughts list,
but that didn't happen. Instead you get a cop out photo I took while
exploring the new people store in japantown. It's a pretty crap photo
in that I was taking the no photos thing seriously for once and I was
ready to leave too. New people was cool, but the gallery was closed so
that was a shame.

geoloc

I can't believe the decade is coming to a close. 2010 seemed intangible and now it's just around the corner. It's hard to believe it's been ten years since college and the like. Those days of youthful do whateve are long gone, and while a lot has changed since then, a lot hasn't. (fact: randall and i have nearly been together for ten years, how's that for blowing your mind?)

As I wondered about what had changed, I started to think about my tastes. Movies and TV are pretty much the same, although these days I don't watch many movies and I like my TV a little quirky indie-fied (whereas back then it was not much TV and movies were quirky indie-fied). And my music is sort of the same too. And unlike movies and TV where I refuse to watch anything more than once (even if I can't remember what the hell it's about), I will listen to songs over and over and over again. Some might even call it obsessive. So in an effort to figure out what I've been obsessing over the last ten years, I decided to join in on this decade-end wackiness and compile a list of my top 50 songs from the aughts.

This has been ridiculously difficult.

As I mentioned, I get a little compulsive, and i really love music, so I think it might end up more like 100. I mean, some of these have not held up over the years at all, but they're the ones I loved at the time. It would be lying to myself not to include them. Even if that means admitting to you all that Nelly Furtado's Promiscuous was once my summer jam.

So where's the list? Ladies and gentlemen, patience. Lists like these don't create themselves in an evening. I'll post it as soon as I'm positive I haven't forgotten something.

I spent the first chunk of my life as a military brat. But let me preempt you before you ask if I moved a lot. I didn’t. My dad was oddly stationed at the same base for almost 10 years and then he retired. So no, we didn’t move much. We didn’t really move at all.

Recently someone said oh so unlike other military kids, your life was pretty stable then. I hardly think that a new best classmate each year counts as stable. You see while I might not have moved, my friends did. The twins, the kid with Pappy dog next door, my awesome best friend from 2nd grade, Tina from across the street, all the kids who’s names I’ve forgotten and then even Davita moved away. In the end, while I stayed in the same place, my friends changed constantly.

Once I said this outloud I realized what had been so obvious all these years. It clearly had a huge impact on who I am and how I interact with people, and what I expect from friendships even. To me friends are people I have a good time with, hang out with, love and live for, you know while they’re there. Once they’re gone I instinctively find their replacement. I don’t mean to. It just happens. This is not to say that I don’t have amazing friendships that have lasted over the years. This is to say that I’m okay with making new friends and have gotten pretty decent at it. You know, survival instinct and what have you.

Tonight I ended up at the Blogher holiday meetup at Tres Agaves. I ran into some old faces, and met a lot of new ones. This is Marie, she runs an online boutique for curvy gals. She’s working on a fashion show and has all sorts of other tricks up her sleeve. Something tells me we’ll see her again. That is, unless she moves away.

ps. i have a feeling the above abandonment is also why i don't fully understand the term "i miss you" but that’s a topic for another day.

This evening I dragged anneh and Randall to 15 romolo for the Afar second issue wrap party. We were there to support miss April whose name appears in the masthead. If you're unfamiliar with afar, it's a new travel magazine designed for folks interested in learning more about the world, and travel that's out of the ordinary. It's smart and fun and filled with cool things like a feature on carsick cars (my fave Chinese band that I told you about in July '08), treehouse hotels and unexpected travel destinations. So stop by your local bookshop and pick up a copy. If nothing else you'll keep my pal April employed and that would be good because I'm pretty sure she owes me lunch.

ps. I wanted to take a pic with April tonight but I am lame and forgot.

pps. here's some carsick cars for your listening enjoyment.

on our way to this week's installment of the dk & sabs & sometimes randall summer movie series, dk and i got into a conversation about age. mostly we were discussing why some people who are younger seem older, and how it's usually because they dress nicer/more professional.

as we were driving to the kabuki (which is by far my fave theatre in san francisco), i started to tell her about how a lot of my mom's friends assume my sister is the older one. i was only halfway through my story (in which the main point is that she dresses more professionally because hello folks, she is a lawyer), when dk flipped down my visor and told me to look in the fucking mirror (especially at my ridiculous glasses, jean jacket and oh maybe my bright yellow fishing lure/80s looking earrings) and told me i didn't need to finish the sentence. we nearly died laughing, dk could barely breathe and could only say  "your glasses..." also, i am pretty sure she was crying tears of joy.

ps. we saw away we go, and i thought it was wonderfully sweet and great. sure there are some cliches, but overall it was solid and adorable and just totally sweet.

who would've known that dk here was such a nerdz? apparently she's a big ol' trekkie fan, and so she secured us some seats to the new star trek. and i'll just go ahead and nerd out right along with her because it was freaking awesome. i loved it, and i loved how they can start an entire new franchise without worrying about continuity, and i loved the casting and i just thought it was fun fun fun. i'll stop there so that i don't ruin anything for the rest of you. 

aftewards dk and i tried to strike a live long and prosper pose. i think we've got some work to do.

ps. i wanted to really nerd out for you, but my bangs are not freshly shorn. i think you can put two and two together. maybe someday you'll get lucky.

pps. lucy and co. were going tonight as well, i thought maybe i'd see them, but it was an imax theatre and those are huge. oddly enough she sat down in front of me.

ppps. i forgot to mention it, so i'm adding this in now. i LOVED the future/semi-scandinavian styled clothing of the vulcans. there was at least one sweater i wanted to make, and 4 other things i wanted to steal. that's all.